from the Memoirs of Lady Ottoline Morrell
My Father died in December 1877. His cousin, the fifth Duke of Portland whom my father, if he had survived, would have succeeded, died exactly two years later. If the order of theses events had been reversed and my father had lived to become Duke of Portland, as he had always expected that he would, being much the younger man, it would naturally have made a great difference to my mother and in many ways to us all. But events do not happen as mortals desire, and they must submit and accommodate themselves to them.
Ottoline's mother, Lady Bolsover & at right her father Major General Arthur Bentinck